If you have fears or challenges that you cannot explain they may not be yours. They may stem from trauma experienced by your parents or grandparents or even further back in your ancestry. In other words, “It didn’t start with you.” Unconsciously, we relive our mother’s anxiety. We repeat our father’s disappointments. We replicate the failed relationships of our parents or grandparents. Just as we inherit our eye color and blood type, we also inherit the residue from traumatic events that have taken place in our family. Unfortunately, while our physical traits are easily discernible, this emotional legacy is often hidden from us.
It didn’t start with you
Anxiety, fear, financial worries, depression, illness and unhappy relationships can all be forms of our unconscious inheritance. Unresolved traumas, some going back several generations, can ensnare us in feelings and situations that don’t belong to us. They can forge a blueprint for our life, and can even pass onto our children. It doesn’t have to continue. It can end here. Today we will talk with Mark Wolynn, author of It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle.
About Mark Wolynn
Mark Wolynn is a leading expert on inherited family trauma. As director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, he trains clinicians and treats people struggling with depression, anxiety, panic disorder, obsessive thoughts, self-injury, chronic illness, and pain. A sought-after lecturer, he leads workshops at hospitals, clinics, conferences, and teaching centers around the world. He has taught at the University of Pittsburgh, the Western Psychiatric Institute, Kripalu, The Omega Institute, The New York Open Center, and The California Institute of Integral Studies. Mark is a Summa Cum Laude graduate in English and Psychology from the University of Pittsburgh. In addition, his graduate work at the University of Pittsburgh and at the University of Arizona was also in English. Mark has published poetry in The New Yorker. He is the author of, “It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle.”